Encouraging me to see my brother (and then using it against me to try to take time away from Cian and I)

Since shortly after Cian was born, Luz used our son against me. From the times she kept him from me, ripped him out of my arms and went into the bedroom to lock the door while screaming "you have no right to him!", to the times when she would just take him and leave while telling me nothing about where she was taking him, or when she withheld him from me after I had not seen him for close to 48 hours because of—who knows what, she never explained it. but, all since I told her I did not want her any more, she has threatened in writing and verbally to keep Cian from me as much as possible.

A little background here before you read the messages below. I work a very flexible job. I only have to go into the office two days a week and I usually make it three days a week. I get to be home with Cian four days a week and it has been like this for years and obviously since before Cian was born. But, Luz tries to tell me and everyone else that I have very little time for Cian. Since I left her, I have been with Cian 4+ days a week with no change in my schedule.

Now she had been telling me to go see my brother who lives hours away. I had wanted to but did not so that I could be with Cian. As soon as I agreed to go see my brother, she started using it to say that it somehow restricted the time that I could spend with Cian. I went for a weekend and she continued to use it like she does in the messages below.

Not many people have had someone tell them they are going to use the courts to try to control, limit, and reduce the time you have with your own son. It is one of the most anxiety inducing experiences. It is so painful and sleep depriving. Lying awake night after night worrying if despite the facts and truth the courts will side with the woman like they do so often just out of tradition. Like I said before, the abuse does not end even after the relationship is over.